Now, look. It’s almost unfair to do this or even to mention it. I mean, Usher... what is he, like, 12? I mean, I still kind of think of him as a kid, although he keeps saying that he’s a man.
Those of us who know who Usher is generally like his music. We move to it, groove to it, probably some of us have sex to it. We like it. It’s catchy. It has a nice beat. We can dance to it!
I don’t think any of us were under the illusion that he was anything other than an entertainer with his catchy hooks and Michael Jackson-esque dance moves. I mean, I never thought of him as a philosopher, an academic or even a particularly bright man. He’s not like the Cornell West of R&B. I mean, right? None of us were thinking this, were we?
For the most part, he seemed harmless enough, right? I mean, he’s not like an R. Kelly per se who was, by the way, acquitted of all charges this week — and who I still believe to be a Rat Bastard. I mean, he’s Usher. I’ve watched him grow up singing songs like "My Way" (which should have been a clue) and then "Confessions 1 and 2" respectively (which should have been an even bigger clue), and even with his new album Here I Stand, which is filled with songs about temptation and his now being a good man who still has the appetite for lots of different women but, because he “loves his shorty at home," he doesn’t act on it anymore. Yay, Usher!
Look, it’s not like most of us give a damn what little Usher has to say. But I wanted to have a record of some of the reasons that either others or I have said as to why they love the ladies.
The list includes, but is not limited to:
We were born this way.
We like the way a woman kisses.
We like how women feel.
We think that women are smarter.
We think that women are more evolved emotionally.
We like the way they smell.
We like the way women taste.
We like soft places.
Breasts… need I say more, really?
We never thought there was anything wrong with it.
It feels right.
We like curvy bodies.
They tried a real man; they didn’t like it.
We like soft bodies and hard bodies.
We like the strength of women.
Women can give birth for crying out loud; we like that too.
Now, I am trying to make this list as comprehensive as possible, as I would like to send it to brother Usher in hopes that he may gain a deeper understanding of lesbianism and, if not that, at least a deeper understanding of his foolishness.
And lastly, my dear Usher, women aren’t “makin' do” with the ladies because we can’t find a man. It’s not the shortage of available men, Honey. It’s the plethora of incredible women.
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Usher is a tool. We knew
Usher is a tool. We knew that from his first song when he was like 12 "They call me the Mack" or some dumb shit.
i think...
He is joking. ..and he didn't really mean it, he just feels good about himself,,,
USHER HIM OUT!!
I think you've done a great job on the list and the only thing I can add is the cerebral:
We like people whose right brain hemispheres are effectively connected to left brain hemispheres.
Please add to your letter to Ushi-baby that we will no longer PURCHASE his music (not that that will make a dent in his millions $$$$$).
Finally: Usher is in the tank for Obama. Don't expect any feminism or basic understanding of women coming from that direction!! Still waiting to see if Obama will march in the Chicago Gay Pride Parade on the 29th. So far his camp has remained silent.
Oh and please do tell Usher he's got the hand symbol wrong. He's got to raise his index fingers while still keeping them together...
The thing that most people
The thing that most people (not only men) don't seem to understand is that being a lesbian is not all about the sex thing. It is way deeper than that and most can't get past the sex thing. They don't see the emotional bond that is involved. As with any type of relationship, there is a peaceful comfort level that is there when you find that one person that understands you for you.
Usher...boy hush!
Excuse me..., but didn't Ushie marry a woman his mother's age? Making her yes..., old enough to be his mother?
So shut up manchild, you haven't lived long enough to expound on the needs of women.
Listen to you, Usher, singing and gyrating in homage to the art of the cheat while broadstroking a generality in thought the majority of men probably have: the 'Dick-factor".
That's all women need... a dick...in her..and Jupiter aligns with Mars.
That piece (not peace 'cause you mean your 'piece') will guide the planets and love... well, is just a four letter word for you--your end in her means. Feel me?
Boy! Get over yourself.
Boys! Get over yourselves.
Heard it, seen it, done that.
And if my gurl and I want sumptin dif, haven't I said before... top drawer, on the left, under my panties I sometimes wear? You'd be in trouble..., cause I can work
it like I was born to it. Fear me?
Usher... shush it... you've no life experiences child, that could possibly aid you in articulating the census count of the woman to man ratio, let alone what women need.
Ush... here's a bit of 411...
...having a man is akin to having a 42 course meal all by yourself with no dessert:
Let's prove this point...
A Woman's Sexual dessert:
*a lotta kissing (not a quick smack then you hit it. no.)
*a lotta foreplay (my breasts will not make bread. so quit that.)
*a lotta pussy eating (keyword: EATING)
*a lotta clitoral stim (please..., look it up if you don't know where it is, what it is or the how-to. Side note: "asking is always good too and appreciated)
*a lotta cuddling (has nothing to do with puttin it up my ass)
*a lotta coming (I don't mean you--in my eye-ever!)
*a lotta cuddling (has nothing to do with holding yourself for crying out loud)
*a lotta pillow talk (snoring doesn't count and just makes the thought of smothering you with a pillow a comfort)
*a lotta tenderness (this is not greco-roman wrestling)
Now Ush... with a good bit of the aforementioned, a woman thinks... ultimately knows... never again. That's if she "went there" at all. It can be innate for her-that knowing. But men themselves can guide women to their "THAT'S IT" moment of clarity.
Still clueless, Ush? Sure you are. A woman says, enough... for life!!! Here are the courses...his worship of the dong, his drawers on the floor, his toenails on the coffee table, his mansmell, his refusal to eat pussy, but an insistence on a blowjob, his titless chest (and I don't mean the manbreast of the obese), his ability to rationalize cheating while attempting amateur hypnosis to revise the history of what she knows and what she saw..., stubble...in the sink or rubbing her raw...stubble, a lacking in sensitivity-tenderness-gentleness that the presense of in a woman makes you ache--she's that good, a lunk headedness that has her wanting to put her own head through a wall, not yours--it's that bad.
All that Usher...
and you know what?... I still have a like for men..., just don't want one in me. Which leaves me..., women where? Read up.
So hush, Ush...
You wrote it
as well as I was thinking it.... thanks...
Cheryl
and it's the thought...
...that counts!!!!
LongBeachDLvr and I are gonna go pull Ush off the teat. Re-formulate his thought processes..., say..., IF I can keep LBDLvr from collecting his bat and balls as trophies! 'Effin pig that she thinks he is... I, for one, was thinkin more in the line of Equidae! LOL!
You coming?!
yeah
I'm in...
Well alright!!!
...now.., let's assume that Charlie's Angels pose....
Okay let's hit it!!!
Usher! We be coming boyOh!!
How ya like the 'ratio' now?!!!
Okay!
but I get to be Sabrina...
Hey Cammy!!! That's awesome!
Hey Cammy!!! That's awesome! I love it! Now I'll have that goofy, 70s theme music in my head all night! Lol!!!
And listen... you work that Sabrina, hear? She's hot! But I pro-gress...
Okay... Ready Angels...
...let's go 'usher' in some reality!!!!
Glorious reply......
I bow to you 10DER.
;)
...sweet as that is...
....LongBeachDLVR..., you'd find me with my fingertips under your chin lifting you up, saying, nuh huh..., don't do that gurl. We're all equal here.
Now... let's go kick some Usher tail!
Thank You 10DER
You are awesome.......
;-)
Yes!
Girlie, You can speak for me any time!
:)Taem?
Taem...
Hey! I'm just saying is all...
See how money and attention can make a person open their mouth and still prove they're dumb as a box of rocks? And I just insulted the rocks.
'nuff said!
now that....
that's quite possibly THE best reply EVER! i could take hours breaking down the genius of it, but i'll just quote a great line that deserves to be repeated "my breasts will not make bread. so quit that."
hell, i'm a gold star lesbian - these are the things i never, ever, EVER want to encounter.
thank you!
hey gold star twinkle...you're welcome....
....and thank you, King... this manboy still has milk on his breath, lost his mind from hittin more experienced pooty, confused his lust for love and now has somehow gained knowledge of the bigger picture in the process... lol! Where's that dog with the cigar puppet! I kid! I kid!
Gurl..., how can I let that mess go without saying something!?!!! Really though... no ill will here. I wish his ignut ass all the best. Scary thing is... he's breeding now! OOOoooh the humanity!!!!
10deroni you pwned this blog
you need to be gloria's hype man, ferreal!
10deroni...
..that's cute and funny King. Lol! And hey, Glo needs no hype and I am no man! Ya dig?
hype...... ma'am?
well then hells bells, OC needs to make you a featured blogger!
Thank you King!
I've been telling 10der the same thing, she needs to have her own column here. At least start a blog of her own. Glad someone else agrees! Maybe we can talk her into it!
LadyDusk...ummmmmm....
...are you a whisperer, LadyD?
You know how to whisper, don't ya?
Gurl..., you just put your lips together and..., well, you speak real low and soft (the way I) like, okay?
Sooo.... I'm listening....
Come on gurl... sweeet talk me into it.
Oh dag! Wait. My bad... who were we talking about? Right. Usher. Yeah...
KingLez... you sweetie you!
Lol! Ma'am?! Is my mother here?! I'm kidding--feel me ticklin you? As for the bloggin thing..., ummmm..., you know my gurl whispered the same thing in my ear..., as did a few others around the OC community.
Uhmmmm..., how's the pay? LOL!
I agree...
I agree with the others on starting your own blog on the OC. You are a joy to read! Looking forward to more replies 10DER.
Thanks for saying what I could not have put so well.
~T~
You too, BimrGrl?!!!
Thanks BimmyG!
LadyD, the KingsterL and now..., you. Menage a trois! Oh, I do def dig that!!!
It's a conspiracy I tell ya! Sediddy, as Big Mama used to say, spinning color on sedition.
Menage a quad, ladies? Lol! Okay..., now back to Usher, y'all.
what a great post!
hope gloria sends him this one too...
maybe she should print EVERYTHING we've posted and send him the whole dang thing!!
LMFAO
He is such a genius..not enough men. That is exactly why I love women. Sike!!!!!!
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It's not telling you how I feel that scares me it's what you'll say back.
Usher Has The Nerve
It still suprises me that men think that they are the majority on this earth having the abilty to marry a woman. He should know to keep his mouth shut about women loving women because his wife looks to be a slightly bad post-op herself. Until she actually gave birth I just knew for sure that she was a damn good drag queen (No offense to the lovely ladies of drag). It just bothers me that in this day and age that men are still archaic in their manners and thoughts. I guess it's true about them thinking with the wrong head.
this really hits a nerve!!!!
Earlier today i was riding in the car with my sista. She was talking on the speakerphone with a guy who likes her. He asked who was i? She said my gay sista, which i think is so funny because she takes it upon herself to out me to the world. I really don't mind it. Because in alot of ways it's a badge of honor to her. Don't forget ladies im in the south! lol Well anyway, he got really upset!!! Come to find out his wife left him a year and a half ago to move in with her lover!!! While he was in Iraq. I think it's really sad he would blame lesbians for the breakup of his marriage! I forgot he used the word "epidemic" Before i could say a word my sista blasted him! it was a honor to call her sis! As for ursher(usher) like they say in the south. Don't talk baby!!! Just keep singing!!!! wow
I think it scares men that
I think it scares men that we can have amazing orgasms without a dick. It makes them feel less masculine and less needed.
Who cares! =D x
too true
it always makes me laugh when a guy says he's really good at oral.. hilarious!!!
Not really surprised...
I'm finding that more and more men believe this to be true. It's hard for them to understand that they are not the main creatures on Earth, that they do not make the sun shine and that their piss is not pure gold.
I'm not surprised at his words because, hey, men think they rule everything.
Right up until their woman jumps ship for another woman. Then they have to find excuses as to why she would. Of course, it can't be what she wants. It can't be what she desires. She couldn't have been ignoring the temptation.
Usher isn't a loser or anything...just typical.
Fuck Usher........
I will never listen to his music again. What a fucking, ignorant pig.
:-((
Usher in some new thoughts
Gloria, that quote by Usher made me laugh. Well, I still like his music, if not his thoughts on women loving women.
Bravo again Gloria
I am always amazed at the excuses people come up with for women loving each other. I just had a conversation less than an hour ago with a man that justified homosexuality by pointing out how “useful” it was to curbing our planets current and potential overpopulation. I got so mad I could have broken his face. I had suspected him of homophobic tendencies before but I was taken aback by how callously he portrayed "gays" as "finally being useful for something." After I told him about my own sexuality he got suddenly quiet and then began a hypocritical barrage of crap to cover up is bull shit. I’m trying to be as tolerant as I can, but it is testing my patience to no end.
Good luck with your list for Usher. If I may add “I love women because it comes as naturally to me as breathing. I can connect with a woman, emotionally and sexually beyond any connection than I could hope to form with the likes of men like Usher and my clueless “friend”.
Sapphire XOXO
thats bull i thought better
thats bull i thought better of him than that
Send a list
to Usher the homothug? The downlow brother with the sweet voice and affinity for gay icons? What on earth for.
Ha
Usher is so cocky that it probably didn't occur to him to think before he spoke. The man thinks he's God's gift to Earth. Don't get me wrong, the man is talented (at singing songs people write for him and stealing Michael Jackson's moves and wardrobe), but you're right Gloria, we don't expect him to be intelligent. This doesn't go for all singers though, Alanis Morissette and Sheryl Crow are extremely intelligent and there are many that have broken the "ignorant" sterotype placed upon singers... pop singers more specifically, but Usher just happens to not be one of them lol. Oh yea and speaking of Alanis Morissette, her new album Flavors of Entanglement rocks! I highly recommend it!Much love to all. --Britt
I am not a lesbian because I don't like men
but for all the positive reasons you listed : comparisions are, for me, men's game who I am not competing with, even as a lesbian.
The poor boy -"12" as you said, Gloria- needs to be confident with the fantasy of being loved by all women, even lesbians : he is desperate, really !
Please, don't make Usher cry (except if he beats women).
Brilliant!
I have the biggest, most affirmed grin on my face after reading your post, Gloria. I am reminded of lesbian poet Alix Olson's famous line, "If it's dick you're after, Darling, try my top dresser drawer." Please indeed. Usher ain't even the Michael Eric Dyson of the R&B world. He grooves though ;-)
she stopped, dropped, rolled, paused, turned, spread & said....
god would be a dyke if she could find someone to hold her!
and for the confused little mr. usher himself there's the line: anybody any body any BODY can bring you closer to jesus.
I have three letters for
I have three letters for him: L O L
LOL
that's clever!
Thank's, I'm doing my best
Thank's, I'm doing my best ;)
Ya'll just don't understand
Usher could NEVER understand why ANYONE would want to be with a woman.
There's a thin line...
shhhhh
let's not out the brother.
the way a woman smell...and taste...
what a fantastic post.. yea.. he needs to be educated ... totally
chili
That solidifies it - I have never liked Usher since he cheated on Chili from TLC. :)
Whatevah Usher!
Oh Usher..Jeesh, where were his PR people. Not enough men? Ok, yeah that is exactly why Im gay. Usher is a genius.. I am so glad he cleared that up for me and my family. Perhaps he can call my Nana and explain why I'm that way:-)
NOT..
Thanks for the post!
Lori B