Why is it your ex never looked so hot as when you are finally broken up? Ever notice how you bump into your ex awkwardly on the street a couple of months after you have finally called it quits, and they suddenly look amazing? You can tell they have been hitting the gym and getting a summer tan and have finally quit wearing that hat that should have been thrown out the year they got out of high school.

Why is it that, in those situations, you on the other hand had been running frantically to the supermarket for more laundry detergent in your old sweats (that they wanted you to throw out) and a ripped up tank with your hair in a scrunchie? (Who knew anyone even owned a scrunchie anymore?!)

A client and I were talking about this early this week and about the way we all deal with break-ups and stressful life stuff. The way I see it is, when something emotional such as a break-up happens, we have two choices: to wallow in self-pity/anger/resentment/jealousy and all the other negative emotions that come along OR to make a decision to CONSCIOUSLY turn the situation into the best it can be.

Our emotions are stored in our bodies, right down to a cellular level. There are even studies where they have photographed cells that have been connected to anger vs cells connected to love. They can actually see the difference, and the cell connected to anger is usually malfunctioning or misshapen in one way or another. They did this same kind of experiment with water in What the Bleep Do We Know, if you want to check it out.

When we have negative energy running through us, it creates negative impacts on the way our bodies look and feel. We get break-outs, gain weight around our mid-section, our faces age and really we are just continuing to hurt ourselves. When we decide to make the best out of a difficult situation, there are certain aspects we need to look at — our body, our mind and our spirit. Exercise is great for the heart. We all know that. But it is also a great way to release and process anything that might be happening in our lives.

When we take time out to work out the energy in our bodies, it can often lead to a clearer mind and more relaxed spirit, therefore, a better position to deal with whatever is happening in our life. When you see your ex looking hot, it is probably because she has decided to do just that and begin to heal herself not out of spite. She has probably realized that, to deal with or process something stressful, we NEED to keep our bodies moving and the clarity of mind and peace of spirit generally WILL follow. So, if you are the person who is feeling down and blue on the couch with your favorite munchies... GET UP AND OUT, and believe me you will feel better! PLUS, next time you're out and about looking fly, she just may be out of laundry detergent.

Keep moving everyone, and have an amazing week!