we're outcasts though? I was engaged to a guy then when I left him and got with my girlfirend everyone assumed I was gay. Now all my close friends and family don't understand why I fancymen and say that I told them I was gay! I did not!
Also, as a newly single person dating is hell. The two dates I've been on with men are hell as when I say I am bi they either feel threatened or ask how I can have sex with no penis!
Finally where are our magazines? Gay, lesbian, straight everyone has one except us(and the gender diverse). I read both gay and straight magazines but for gods sake why can't anyone combine them?
Sorry about the rant but have been bi forever and known it so really annoys me....

Told me being bisexual is "selfish", because I can't make up my mind. Ridiculous, I think. I guess if I would have to label myself, I would be bisexual. But honestly, I don't consider myself bisexual. I just go for whoever I am attracted to at that moment, whether it's a boy or girl. I don't go out trolling for a new lover like "Hmmm, I feel like having some penis/vajayjay today!" Hahaha. I pay waaaay more attention to what's on the inside and how the person treats me, rather then what's below the waistline.

I think you can only say that you are bisexual is when you fall in love with both a guy and a girl.
You cannot consider yourself bisexual if you've only kissed or been attracted to either a guy or a girl.
Especially most teenagers today experiment and kissed the same sex but doesnt mean they're bi or gay
You can also be attracted to the same sex but it's just an attraction
so until you've been in love with BOTH guy and girl
then you're a bisexual, in my opinion

I think there's a line like this

straight (0) >------------------< Gay (100)

Everyone is somewhere in between For me I'm at aproxamly 80 to 90 I think. But my points is no one is really 100 % this or that!

I will confess it's hard for me to really understand bi-sexuality but that doesn't mean I won't accept it. I think everybody is an human being and must treaded as such..

You get me??

i'm bisexual, and i don't like the term bi-sexual... people tend to class you as greedy, undecisive or a 'slut'... i.e. wants their cake and eats it too! However, i prefer women, and have been with my girlfriend now for over a year, so what does that make me? I have a very narrow minded friend who now says i'm a lesbian because i'm with a girl. The world needs to rid it's labels.

i think bisexuals are stigmatized heavily. we live in a world where we aren't straight enough or gay enough. we don't understand gay issues, we don't know how to be properly straight. we're flaky and undescisive. it's bullshit. A friend of mine is married with 2 kids and is still a bisexual. Another friend has been with a women for the past 4 yrs and is still a bisexual.

people's ignorance sometimes is ridiculous.

I think bisexuality is simply being beautifully open to whatever presents itself to you, and not discriminating against an opportunity at being happy; simply because the person is not the sex that society has designated for you to be attracted to.
i'm not saying that completely gay people should force themselves to be attracted to the opposite sex for the sake of fluidity, because i understand that this would be unfair. but i think heterosexuals and homosexuals alike could take a leaf out of the bisexual book, and the world would be a lot more of an integrated and accepting place.
The idea of bisexuality being a transitional phase (the whole "bi now, gay later" idea) is just another tragic example of the manner in which we have become so committed to placing everything and everybody into restricting, binary categories.
..... that said, its really very hard to find a guy who isnt threatened by, and can hold down an interesting conversation with an independent woman who has no intention of fetching his beer, laughing at his lame jokes or feeding his ego!
however, we can hope.

Hmm..haven't heard that one, but I'll take it!
One of the LWord characters described sexuality as fluid, and it made such an impression on me. That is exactly how I feel. Fall in love with the person, not the gender. And it really irritates me that strictly gay people give me crap for this. As if THEY haven't been discriminated against--why do that to others. I am what I am. And what I am is: seeing a beautiful hetero couple and thinking, damn; I'd love to do them both!!

I agree with everyone's post. As a fence-sitter myself, I have to brave constant attacks, even from a close lesbian friend who called me a "wannabe-lesbian" once. I hate when people try to make me feel as if I should "prove" it by doing freaky shit or having a gf and bf at the same time. Or when others say I'm either going to be a full-out dyke or just end up marrying a man. It's either/or for some. It's just other people's insecurities not mine. I'm fine identifying as bisexual.

It's encouraging to see how many resopnded to this... and NO Danni I dont think we are "missing something", quite the contrary, I think we have it all!!! That's a good thing isn't it??? so why does that often make me feel guilty.... I think it's because I too am married, plus I have children. It's hard to divide your time between so many loved ones.

Find the silver lining...
~HUGS~

There's a really good book out called "Look Both Ways" by Jennifer Baumgardner all about Bi-sexual politics.It really tackles a lot of the issues we face as bi-sexuals.
I'm really struggling with acceptance myself right now.Alot of times,I feel like I'm not entitled to love women because i've slept with men.
Gay culture is sort of like the serpent that eats its own tail.We've all struggled so long for acceptance in society at large,but within our own walls, there's predjuice against bi-sexual people and transgender people.

I find that among my age group, 18ish, alot of girls are calling themselves bisexual, and it kind of annoys me. 'Bisexuals' in my experience, lean far towards the straight end of the kinsey scale, and will grown up and settle down with a man. its not to say true bisexuals exist, and if you are i love you for it, but i do believe the term is tossed around to loosely, and hence the social outcase syndrome.

tadaa lol.

I do not, and I am the only that I know :)
I've discovered the fact very late, I hope there'll be occasion to chat sometimes :)
I think people consider being bisexual as immorality. Just as if you desire everybody you get to know. You cannot decide who you love and why, you are weak person, you can sleep with everybody :)

my gay friend nick says bisexuals are only playing around and all they want is that big ol wee wee, but i disagree completely. i hate when people make me feel like i'm in this stupid transitional period. that would mean i've been transitioning my entire life. i knew i liked girls just as much (and in some aspects MORE) than boys.

we need our own parade.

Don't worry...! We're way cooler than all the others baby! They envy us!

No, it may suck, because gays think we are straight, straights think we are gay and many people might not understand how we can feel for both genders, but nevermind, we have each other. Maybe we should form a club, like IBC (International Bisexual Club) and go public someday...

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