What is cheating?
Anything you wouldnt want you significant other doing to you.
Can I forgive and Forget?
yes. I can. I have done it so this shoulgnt be anymore different.
Are you currently Spyingon your partner?
Dont have one and am not planning on it for a long time. It's me time. but the girl im am talking to (JEN) is very open. She understands what im saying. She is allowed to do whatever she wants as long as I am too..I am begining to fall in love with her so i do trust...
Are they curious about if I am cheating?
Like i said above, No. she is trusting me.

Just Say Fuck IT!!!!!!!!!!!!1

what is cheating to you?
knowing something you do (flitring, kissing, sex, feeling for someone else, whatever the deal is) would really hurt your partner and make them lose their trust in you, but still doing it regardless. Being unfaithful.

can you forgive and forget?
depending on the nature of our relationship. with my girlfriend right now (i love her more than i ever loved someone, i'd marry her if i could) i could understand if she flirted with someone or was fascinated with someone (she gets fascinated with people, but it has never threatened our relationship), or if she kissed someone and told me about it first time she had a chance (i doubt she'd ever go that far). i have to trust her that she wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our relationship, or to betray my trust or hurt me. i need to trust her with that. i need to trust her. i base my relationships on trust. and for me where is no trust there is no love.
so if she cheated, and if she hurt me, i may be able to forgive her, but i don't think i'd b able to trust her again, and she knows it.
and i've had lovers who dated other people as well. i don't have any jealousy issues. it's not about that for me at all. it's all about trust. if we are building our relationship together according to our natures and our needs, and working on it all the time, then we must trust each other that none of us is going to go and destroy all that for passing passion or something like that.
so if you go and do something behind my back, i'm going to find out sooner or later, and shut you out. because i don't do sketchy and unreliable people. i don't do disloyalty.

are you currently spying on your partner?
i was never spying on my partner. partners are no cattle to be watched over. they know where the boundaries are. and i need to trust them they will respect me enough to tell me if they are unhappy. and i'd know.

are they curious if you are cheating on them?
i don't think so. i never cheated. i had multiple partners at times, but i was open about it. if i don't respect people enough to be true and faithful and loyal i don't get involved with them. i don't need someone to make me feel secure or comforted. i don't need someone to love me unless i love them too. and i don't do relationships just not to be lonely or single. and i don't do jealousy. if you can't trust me - leave me.

I'm going to take the definition that most people have of "cheating" and augment it to include mental infidelities. For me, you don't have to physically act on your desires to be unfaithful. It's one thing to be attracted to someone outside your relationship, but if you're constantly fantasizing about others, you're still at fault... mental infidelity or fantasizing about committing infidelities can be just as detrimental to your relationship as actually doing the deed.

If I really love someone, I do have the capacity to forgive them after cheating, although many probably think it's foolish to do so. That said, I can't guarantee that I would still pursue a romantic relationship with them, but I would be willing to make things work platonically. I forgive easily, but I never forget. "Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me."

I think it's okay for the occasional nosiness, as long as you're motivated purely by curiousity and not suspicion. Being suspicious, or "spying on your partner", only shows that there is a lack of trust in your relationship. You can't truly love someone if you don't trust them. Going along with that, you don't truly love someone if you aim to keep them to yourself and deprive them of having friendships. Jealousy and suspicion are rooted in selfishness, and love revolves around selflessness, sacrifice, and empathy. They can't co-exist.

what is cheating to you?
for me cheating is not being able to give your 100% emotionally and sexually because of somebody else's existence

can you forgive and forget?
sure, but I want to see honesty first!

are you currently spying on your partner?
I don't have a partner currently, but I would never do that to anyone, especially the person I love

are they curious if you are cheating on them?
see above (no partner, so...)

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And if my present deeds are foolish in thy sight, it may be that a foolish judge arraigns my folly.

-what is cheating to you?
To me, it's unfaithfulness. Sexually or otherwise, like someone said. It's a simple concept, really. If you say you love me alone, then do some shit to make me think twice about that, I feel cheated.

-can you forgive and forget?
I don't quite know. I have never been that confident in my forgive and forget skills. Not when something hurts bad enough. You can't expect one to forgive something you did if you knew, the whole time, that it would affect them like that.

-are you currently spying on your partner?
Nope. I put my faith in the fact that she knows the hurt that lies behind that. And I am confident that mistakes are made and learned from, and that she has enough heart to not want to put me through that.
Like I have been before.

-are they curious if you are cheating on them?
Nope. She knows I adore her, and wouldn't do anything to compromise that.

If it's going to hurt the person, it's cheating.

I can forgive too easily, but forgetting is impossible and I always make that known to the person.

And I have my worries and she has her worries about me, but I can only trust her and hope that the loyalty I give her will be the loyalty she gives to me.