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The Slime of Sex
September 22, 2008 - 8:17am — Erin Blackwell
Is sex sinful? Is sex perverse? Is sex disgusting?
Llamas are impervious to criticisms of their sexual proclivities
Answering yes to any one of these questions may actually enhance your enjoyment of sex, even as such attitudes might seem to decrease the likelihood of you pursuing any.
It really doesn't matter what we think about sex. Sex will have its way with us. The wiser course is to think nothing about it at all, to stand back, as it were, and let it come barrelling past all conscious control and attempts to restrain it.
Such an attitude would surely lead to panic in the streets. Mayhem and worse. Pandemonium. A run on the banks. (Oh, wait, we've got that anyway.) Impromptu street festivals. Haight-Ashbury. The Summer of Love.
Quite right. Sex didn't kill the '60s. Drugs did. And killing killed the '60s. Not just over there in Vietnam, but over here, in Malibu. Roman Polanski's actress wife and her friends lost their lives to a handful of crazed cult members who'd been whipped up into a multidirectional murderous rage by a limited-range genius named Charles Manson. That's when the '60s ended, says Joan Didion.
In the popular imagination, Polanski brought on the murder of his pregnant wife by the excesses of his cinematic imagination, which tended to sex and death.
The imaginations of all artists tend to sex and death — even moreso when they've witnessed the work of Nazis up close and personal in a Polish concentration camp as a child. Polanski has what are politely called "demons" which push him to want sex with what the law deems inappropriate partners. He's in exile from this country because of one particular instance of his trying to get what he shouldn't have wanted and being caught. But that didn't stop the French from letting him win Cannes. It didn't even stop the Americans from letting him win an Oscar.
Deep down, people understand there's no controlling this thing.
Deep down, people love this imperative — the sexual imperative to find some thing, some one, with which, with whom, to commune, to meld, to merge, to fuse, to dissolve and intermingle until the distinctions of I and Thou are no longer possible.
You'll say I just slipped over into love. Sex is like that. It slips over into love. And then you're really in trouble.
An astoundingly beautiful argument for polymorphous perversity.
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87 Comments
Well,
that was just thought provoking and excellent. Thank you Erin.
Slugs. Fascinating. It was like watching a car accident. I couldn't turn away!
∞ Reach out and touch somebody ∞
Where Rocket Pops
Don't have sex or you'll go blind!
I grew up in the 60 and 70's and went to a Lutheran school for eight years. In that time I learned that the Pastor was having an affair with the wife of the Janitor. My best friends mom was a prostitute who also slept with the Pastor. And one of the teacher's was a child molester. Yep, I got quite an education. I came to the obvious conclusion that sex isn't dirty, People are. Sex is just another basic need like food and air. It's natural and normal and vital to our human psyche. People are sexual beings.
Some turn it and twist it and blow it all out of shape to suit their purpose or fettish. They use violence with sex or force their idea of pleasure on other people, usually the young or the weak. This is not normal and natural, this is a mental or emotional illness or mabye just someone born without a soul. Your choice.
Some people deny it's power over our choices. They simply refuse to give their sexuality admittance.
The one's I feel the most sorry for are the one's who deny their own need to be sexual. They have a fear, usually caused by nurture, to express their sexuality in any way that is contrary to the heterosexual Whita Anglo Saxon norm. They have gone blind but not from sex, but from guilt for their "sinful" thoughts. Or they pass judgement on those that choose to be what they are, sexual creatures.
We are the only species that can choose whether or not to fight their sexual tendency. But along with the ability to choose comes a responsibility to choose well. The consequences of the wrong choice can be devastating to yourself or those you love. Listen to you sexual needs, they are real and they are honest.
Nancy Pofahl
Author/Writer Extraordinare
www.npofahl.com
is this not the metaphorical desire of every lesbian?
the intertwining of two souls transcending the physical and entering a world of euphoric exploration.
i'm replying to this
just so you can't erase it
don't worry
i read minds
slime......................sex............................
hay...............wait .......a ...............................minute................................................i thunk...................i.............thunk.............i got sompin'..........i thunk...........
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"never mind...
remember I don't have a brain." [she says concisely as she exits stage left]
You forget.
We do infact, have the asexuals.
ASEXUAL
adj.
1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
2. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.
3. Lacking interest in or desire for sex.
Compliments of: www.dictionary.com
the asexual imperative, or "get away from me"
see "repulsion" starring catherine deneuve, the most amazing movie, by polanski
the mad scene
http://www.lakeland-terrier.org/history.html
I cant quite organize my thoughts
I'm mostly just glad that people dont do it slug style.
Lots of laundry
The twining part looks kind of fun, but you'd definitely ave to wash the sheets daily. That drop doesn't look too pleasant either.
Taem?
the bump
ain't it the perfect metaphor?
Aren't we the angry
Aren't we the angry lesbians... seeing how often being offended outraces plain listening/reading/understanding, I am reminded of just *why* I tend to keep my mouth shut.
On another note,
it's been a while since I found these topics (sex, not lust; life, not living; demons, not traumas - and so on) rounded up in such an easygoing yet absolutely powerful threat of thought. Thanks a bunch.
""Deep down, people love
""Deep down, people love this imperative — the sexual imperative to find some thing, some one, with which, with whom, to commune, to meld, to merge, to fuse, to dissolve and intermingle until the distinctions of I and Thou are no longer possible""
**This if officially my favorite quote of all time.. it rings true deep down into the core of each person's soul.. it is a definition intertwined with love to the most sensual degree.
Love it!!!
((the video was awesome as well!))
you're a slug-hugging romantic, mrs arkansas
and that's why i love you
ah what can i say?
the intricate mating habits of mollusks have always held a special place in my heart =))
flowering male organs fertilizing each other
It has a nice gender-bending quality to it.
;)Taem?
extruded
from behind their heads!
retractable!
translucent!
pearlescent!
quite bold
to draw a connection between murder in WWII, childs abuse and
sex in just a few sentences.
a word of explanation
The phrase 'Polish concentration camps' is false and disinformative. These were German, Nazi concentration camps in Poland and that's a huge difference.
i type corrected
The Polański family was a target of Nazi persecution and forced into the Kraków Ghetto, along with thousands of other Polish Jews. Roman Polański's mother was subsequently gassed in the Auschwitz concentration camp. His father barely survived the Austrian concentration camp Mauthausen-Gusen. Polański himself escaped the Kraków Ghetto, surviving the war with the help of a Polish Roman Catholic farmer, on whose farm he had to sleep in a cow stall. (wikipedia)
poland
lost its souvereinity in september 1939. the concentration camps krakow-plaszow and auschwitz were built in 1940. there was no collaboration of any parts of a polish government with the german occupants and Poland was in no way participating in the decisions of the german administrations, Concentration camps on polish territory were decided, constructed and ruled only by german officials any death sentences were made and executed by germans. people dying in the camps were often polish and german jews. calling those concentration camps "polish" is not just a lazy shortening of historical facts, but downright insulting and brainless.
Overkill
'lazy' and 'brainless'?
Most educated people know the status of Poland during WWII and that the camps were Nazi-run (the author also stated this a few words prior to 'Polish'). The reference to Poland is merely a geographical one. I think it's sad, and a tad ironic, that in discussing the particulars of one of the greatest tragedies in human history you would display such a lack of humanism by resorting to name calling and belittling.
how would u feel
if i called 9/11 an "american terroristic assault", because it happened on american ground?
correct would be "concentration camps IN poland" and the author herself called her wrong typing correct even after being hinted on this faux pas. there has been a huge discussion about the difference between "polish CC" and "CCs in poland" a couple of years ago in europe, referring to the ignorance of using the first term. formulation does matter, especially in a sensitive topic like this.
"The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it." Oscar Wilde
language barrier
i thnk there was a mistranslation of "i type corrected" a spin on the american idiom, "i stand corrected', meaning, "i was wrong"
alright alright
my fault. obviously i mistook "i type corrected" for "I typed correct", but i react kinda allergic against ignorance, so sorry for my harsh reaction ;) I am not polish by the way.
real or perceived
we fight the shadow
Isn't it possible to clarify
without belittling? I mean, is accuracy more important than how we treat others?
p.s. as for 9/11 i would understand the shorthand used and not take such huge offense, though i get your point.
please note
that i didn't call erin brainless, but choice of the term she insisted using even after being called on it.
"The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it." Oscar Wilde
teaching is the great work
"insisted using"?
I don't see
that Erin insisted on doing anything. She corrected herself. Are you Polish, Miss Lips? I understand your frustration, but I must point out that Poles have traditionally not been known for their love of Jews.
humor injection
how very jewish of you or do i mean yiddish? i'm sure i don't mean zionist. did i just get myself in trouble again?
Not at all
I'm just being bitchy because I thought Miss Lips was being bitchy to you.
earning your wifely stripes
showing your wifely meddle. nothing better than bitchy understatement.
Yes and despite the fact
that you recently told Mrs. Irishe Trollope that she was number one.
at spelling dearheart
merely at spelling
You are
exceedingly clever.
PS
Scroll down and see what I have to say about why I/Thou isn't necessarily a part of sexual compulsion.
And I oughta know.
Woah. Whatever. I still need
Woah. Whatever. I still need to talk to you about my clitoris.
if you think talking will do any good
i'll call
Sarah Palin hates llamas.
Alright, I want to know the thought processes that brought the llama into this wonderful blog.
Llama haiku
luxurious fur
top or bottom, my dearest
endlessly stroking
;)Taem?
Hummmmm.... fried llama
Hey..... Sarah, yeah we're tight, says they taste like chicken.
they're so lovely
i was scouring the web for an illustration. i didn't like the human pix. i stumbled on these llamas.
:) Well, your choice gets an
:) Well, your choice gets an A+.
sinful
After growing up Catholic, it is sinful and dirty. It is something that I soooo loved to overcum. It's still dirty--but thats by my own choice.
Happy guilt-free-orgasms everyone.
the catholicks
have their talons so deep in me i still don't know where they leave off & i begin but it sure does make stuff sexy/scary
RP vs. Slugs
I'll take the slugs over Roman Polanski for an illustration of the sex imperative.
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Me too
Slugs have a better reputation.
sounds like the typical lesbian relationship -
completely engrossed in each other.
"Deep down, people love this imperative — the sexual imperative to find some thing, some one, with which, with whom, to commune, to meld, to merge, to fuse, to dissolve and intermingle until the distinctions of I and Thou are no longer possible."
that's when the two gain weight, start wearing matching cargo shorts and polo shirts... walking hand in hand with their doggies at various pride parades in their state ....
that's when the sex stops and becomes imperative... the sexual imperative...
beware the loss of your I !
and PS... sex isn't love but sometimes in spite of the sex you can fall in love - if given enough time and attention - attention to something besides the vajayjay... rather, the person.