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October 25, 2008 - 12:06pm — MirizIf you had been in love with a married, same sex teacher? I have been for the last two years. Would you have done something? Let her know you were in to her? It kinda felt like she had "noticed me" because in every spanish class, she looked at me when she spoke. Like, 80 % of the time. And this year, I don't have her anymore as a teacher and it's breaking my heart. I think about her 70% of the day, EVERY day. Would you say that I should try to show her that I'm into her? Or should I just let it go? I kinda did, my friend and I gave her a rose each at the end of last year since we wasn't going to have her this year. But doesn't mean she knows though. so. Yeah, what would you have done?
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My Vote: Forget Her
Miriz:
Let it go. That's my suggestion.
Of course, that is much easier said than done. I was you two years ago. I fell in love with my also-married language instructor. I am still trying to forget her.
I don't know anything about lesbian relationships. In fact, this teacher is the first woman I ever fell for. But, you should stop thinking that something is going to happen when it probably won't. Try to channel your angst into a creative activity. For example, I have painted more than ever before.
And, cut her off. My language teacher/crush is still (gulp) one of my best friends. Bad idea. I can tell you, though, that I think less and less of her each day. It's still rough some days. But, a year ago, I died each day that we did not chat or that I did not get an email from her. You will forget her.
The other thing that I discovered is that sometimes there might be a cultural barrier too great to surmount. Now that I live in my language teacher's country, I understand that even if she had actually liked me and I was not misinterpreting her actions, she would be very hesitant to act on any same-sex feelings. Homophobia is open and accepted in her native country. And, she grew up hearing horrible things about gays and lesbians. Even though she is open-minded, it would be quite a leap for her to accept same-sex feelings. If your Spanish teacher grew up in a culture where gays and lesbians are discriminated against, you might have another hurdle to overcome.
Forget her.
Linden
Yeh.. I understand.. it
Yeh.. I understand.. it would be really hard.. Its hard to move on from anyone! I saw this girl at the simple plan concert last week.. Didn't even talk to her.. She stood infront of me all night and I can't stop thinking about her! How crazy is that?? Lol good luck.. One day you'll find another infatuation :)
Hopefully soon!
Yeah, I guess you guys are right.
Lol, it's just so wierd and amazing at the same time. I'm not into homewrecking either. It's just. blah. And ICANTWAITFOREVER, you're right. If you had been in love with him, you would've seen it in THAT way. We have talked alot outside school though. I actually, a while ago, sent her a message to ask about spanish movies and stuff. Just to have something to talk to her about. Lol, I know I'm wierd. But I know I should just move on. Though it's hard =)
Erm.. it may be an
Erm.. it may be an infatuation. I mean, have you ever talked to her about non-academic issues?
As a side note, I thought my hot French teacher was staring at me all the time.. but then I realised that I was just living in this weird self-centered fantasy...
i would have realized im
i would have realized im like every other bloody lezo who had a crush on their teacher...
guess what?
WE ALL loved a teacher at one point...
gues what?
none of us got to swim in her pussy...
and then?
we moved on....
:D Soooo right! PS. Does it
:D Soooo right!
PS. Does it also count for university teachers? I hope it doesn't! ;)
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And if my present deeds are foolish in thy sight, it may be that a foolish judge arraigns my folly.
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Yeh I third it.. It may seem like a good romantic spontaneous idea.. But a little snap back to reality? She's your teacher, she's married, she's straight, and I doubt she knows..
I know it must be hard but you might just see all these 'signs' because you want to..
For ex: my business teacher in yr 12 always would help me private study, and said to me one day if I had an idol it would be you and hugged me.. Now if I was in love with him it would have gone straight to my head and would have taken it THAT way.. But I wasn't.. He was married and we were just mates who respected eachother..
So yeh.. I think its a bad idea.. The only good that would come from it is if she was interested then what would happen with Marriage, family, friends..
Classic unatainable love :(
Oh, and I tend to avoid
Oh, and I tend to avoid married ones (gay, straight, whatever), because I'm not into homewrecking.
good one..
i second that..
NO to homewrecking..
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As I walk down the street of loneliness
Feeling the pain, emptiness and coldness
Longing for love and blissfulness
Leaving me far behind and breathless - stupidcrazyme
She could be looking at you
She could be looking at you because you're looking at her. When I talk to an audience, the one paying attention gets my attention. but it doesn't mean anything more.
not always, but maybe.
That's true. I used to
That's true. I used to wonder why my teachers always looked at me and then I realised it was because I was one of the few who looked like they were paying attention.
You could tell her, even get in a relationship, but I don't think it would ever end well. It'd be fun, exciting, dangerous if it turns out she feels the same way, but can you really see her leaving a marriage to be with you?
In your position, I think I'd probably end up telling her just to gauge her reaction, then talk it through and try to move on. The trouble with not knowing is you can envision all the possibilities inside your head and it keeps you hoping. It might be better to have a chat about it and gain some perspective.