My friend was in reality very insecure about herself. It didn't take a professional shrink to figure that out. But she would never admit it to herself, and least of all she would never realize that all she did to others was wrong.

One of our biggest conflicts was that she was a big player. And this shouldn't have affected me in any way, but it did when she constantly flirted with girls that was either my friends, aquainted of mine or others I just knew - who would come to me and ask wether this girl was a player or not.
This made it all a conflict when my friend told me I was HER friend, and that I should not go around telling people I knew that she was a player. What the fuck should I do? Just watch people I cared about getting hurt, just because my friend thought it would be awkward being referred to as "the player"...
This made a lot of drama.

Anyway, she constantly manipulated both me and other friends of hers. She would fuck up MY lovelife, and hit on girls that I was dating, just because she could not handle seeing someone else happy - if she was not happy herself.
Honestly, she don't know the definition of the word friend. And myself and some others being her "friend" broke contact with her, and found out that our lives was SO much better! I found out that I in fact COULD breathe through the whole day. It was a huge relief.

Before this happened I had given her so many chances to change. In the end I told her that it was not even fair of me asking her to CHANGE, because the problem wasn't that she couldn't change - she just wouldn't. So I told her that we were way to different to even be friends, and that our friendship positive sides was not enough to overlook our friendships negative sides.
She took this hard, and I felt sorry for her. But as I said, this made ME a lot more happy.

Sometimes you have to think about yourself and what is best for you. We can't "save" everyone on this earth that has not realized what's the important values in life. Save yourself! You should not have to go through days with lies and conflicts just because SHE does not appreciate a real friendship!

I know it's hard to break contact with her, especially if you both have some of the same friends. But I got through it, and so can you! Good luck! :)

I am amazed that you were able to build a relationship with a compulsive liar. And my cousin is a compulsive liar.. but I don't hang around him or love him like your dear friend... Takes too much effort to decipher truth from a lie.. besides, what happens when it really matters? What do you believe?

yeah, i live with a compulsive liar and i just ignore everything he says, pretty much. i know must of it is lying so i believe it until i hear him contradict himself and i just don't bring it up.. but most of what he says, i don't buy it and i've taken to googling anything that is google=able.. but yeah, i just keep my mouth shut and bitch about it to everyone else.

try this...

everytime she lies, give her a comeback lie.

EG:

Lyingfriend: Omg like last night, i have sex with 11 girls and 4 of them were squirters and they had multiple orgasms and oh did i mention 2 of them started crying coz im such and amazing licker she couldnt handle me...

You: omg i got laid tooooo! i was at a S&M party in china and the emperors wife was going down on me... yea...

i wouldn't know man, lying justs sucks like a mutha. and eventually (i don't know how long you've been putting up with her lies) you'll grow sick of it, because it tends to be boring and every word she says is hollow and meaningless, and you'll want to have someone you can really talk to, not just pretend you like talking to.

i for one, wouldn't be able to cope with a liar, it just wears me out. i am lucky enough to have 4 great friends, two of them have known me for a sickass long time. There are a lot of kind but stupid people you'll run into, but it's better to spot the one or two who'll walk you across this mundane shithole, instead of the 10 or 20 that will just lie to you.

yo.

If it weren't for a certain four or five people, I would have given up on friendship ages ago, lol.

Everyone I claim as a friend, besides the said 4 or 5, has one or two traits that throw me off completely. I mean I try to be the best friend I can- and I make mistakes, but not to that degree.
People nowadays toss friendship around like they'll always have it sitting right there for them.
I think that's what makes them think it's okay to be very moronic sometimes.
And I think that's why I choose very carefully, now, who my closest friends are.