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Spring Fling

I’m feeling lusty. For all of us who live in climates with four seasons, it's happened. Spring has sprung. Our winter coats are officially packed away, girls are in short dresses, chicks driving fast, ingénues with long lashes… fighting, f*cking, F*cking, F*cking… er... you know what I mean. I’m feeling lusty. I’m ready for a spring fling.

Last night I went to visit a friend of mine who tends bar at one of the great lesbian-owned eateries in Brooklyn, Beast. As I was sitting there at the bar a pretty lady sat down next to me, she took out a little Moleskine notebook and busily scribbled away. Peering out from the corner of my eye, I noticed her bare legs crossed beneath her very short skirt. I couldn’t help it and I struck up a conversation. I asked her what she was writing and she said she was a poet. She asked me what I do; I told her I’m an editor of a lesbian website. She said “Oh, I should have you talk to my writing class.” I said “great” and gave her my number.

Okay, for the record, I do not use my job to get laid. It may happen circumstantially, but that is all. In any event, as we were talking I kept looking at her kinda long-ish nails. And couldn’t figure out if she was gay, straight or bi. Chaia has totally gotten me confused about long nails now. I used to look for short nails on femmy chicks as the one indicator that they will go my way. This girl at the bar, I couldn’t tell. After I outed myself, she didn’t out herself. Then she began talking about a “we.” I paid my bill and went home… sneezing. Sneezing because, in the last couple years, I’ve become totally struck by allergy season. Right after the trees start to blossom, some unknown plant starts blossoming and, for the next several weeks, my eyes water, my nose drips, my throat hurts and I can’t think! I’m typing to you holed up with the windows closed and the air purifier on, thinking about how many women I won’t be able to meet this weekend because I can’t leave my loft.

Oh well, at least I have you people to flirt with and it’s a good thing there’s lots to do on this site these days. Lisa Bang has been working closely with the tech team to bring us new features. Here is Lisa’s description of what’s new:
Online Status
So when you're viewing your friends list, a page of user search results or a particular user's profile, you'll now see an "online" badge on the user photo if that person has logged in within the past 15 minutes. If you'd prefer to keep your online status private, go to your account settings, scroll down to the Online Settings section and uncheck the box to hide your online status. When your status is hidden, you won't be able to view other users' online status either.
Personalized URLs
We've changed your profile URLs so they're no longer associated with your member number. Now your personal URL shows your OurChart member name. For example... Old URL: http://www.ourchart.com/user/46
Fancy new URL: http://www.ourchart.com/profiles/oc-editor
Share it with your friends so they can easily find you on OC! Add it to your business card! Or just enjoy seeing your name at the top of your profile page instead of a bunch of meaningless numbers.

We are also working on the special place on our site where you will be able to send in and read your L-stories. This is the story project that Ilene and Jennifer launched during V to the 10th. This page will be up and running sooner than you think!

This weekend is the GLAAD awards in Los Angeles. Thank goodness our blogger Jenn Kennedy is GLAAD’s official photographer so she will be giving us the inside scoop on the event. And our illustrious boss is being honored by GLAAD with the Davidson/Valentini Award on May 10 in San Francisco. Holy snap, look at Ilene’s new head shot!

Nice.

When we return on Monday, Rachel Shelley will be answering Alexandra's Phone Sex question. So until then, stay away from the pollen. XO

41 Comments

Spring Cleaning?

Hi, Grace -

Happy Spring. Take some Claritin (Flonase works, too) and get back out there.

I was off OurChart for Spring Break a couple weeks ago, and when I returned I had some ideas about the new OurChart format which I've been meaning to share with you. One thing I was going to suggest is that you periodically change the homepage icons for the different categories of discussion. I see you did that this morning, which has impelled me to write up my suggestions. I hope these ideas will be helpful, but if not, please feel free to discard them as just some more springtime airborne irritants.

I really really like it that you guys segmented the vertically scrolling blogs into horizontal discussion areas. I think that was a big improvement. And, as you've done this morning, I think it would keep things interesting if you often (weekly?) change the icons for those discussions. And I especially like that the new icons specifically reflect the discussion content for the week. Excellent.

But I miss the rolling pictures at the top of the page that you had before you switched to the one video format that occupies the top of the page now. Just visually, the video doesn't come up right away, so the first thing an OurChart visitor sees is a big black void. Also, the one video doesn't change that often, so women who visit OurChart daily just kind of disregard the all-important top of the page. But, most importantly, what that rolling picture format did was allow you to draw attention to more than one discussion on any given day and to keep a topic of discussion in the forefront for as long as was called for.

I think there are (at least) four topics of discussion right now that should be featured at the top of the page -- the Democratic nomination process, the Phone Sex rolling discussion, the Be Scene videos and the V to the Tenth discussions. With the old format, you could feature all of them at once (as well as whatever else you guys deem worthy) and, as importantly, you could keep them up there for as long as they generate discussion and interest.

Right now all discussions scroll chronologically within their segmented general subject, so even if there's a "hot topic" it soon scrolls off into the ether and is not that easy to find - especially for people who don't visit OurChart everyday. But if you reinstated the rotating picture idea at the top of the page, you could organize discussions on the site by importance as well as by subject and chronology.

Also, it would be really helpful if all the discussions on any given topic resided in the same horizontal subject heading. I was gone the week before and after V to the Tenth. Some of that discussion is in Wake Up where I looked for it, but most of it is in Hook Up, which I didn't even see for a couple days. And this morning I'm looking for Lenelle's amazing "How to Write About New Orleans" but I can't find it. Similarly, the Dem primary discussion is in Hook Up and Wake Up, but there are days that go by where there's no new featured blogs about it, so some of us just continue the discussion in the last Jennifer/Prof Wolff blog which I've bookmarked.

So, for instance, we ran down the Annie Get Your Gun "Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better" goof a day before Diana blogged about it, because we were off in our own little outpost that not too many people visited. And, I just noticed that there are some discussions about the election under the 10 news stories of the day. So, to make a short story long ... I am positive that you can grow all of these discussion communities if you keep the discussions on any given topic together. And I think the rotating top picture can help you do that and also help you keep multiple important discussions alive for longer and draw new people to them, especially people who don't visit the site every day.

So, that's my two cents on the mechanics of the page. On a philosophical front -- the website is organized very much within a Clintonian 90's top-down political framework forged in 70's liberal feminism . Which is groovy if that's what you want to do. But if you want to organize the website around the 21st-century bottom-up populist activist paradigm forged largely on the internet, you could make a few small but revolutionary adjustments.

For instance, your political category is called "Wake Up." Rebecca Walker just wrote a piece about that very phrase on her web site (I can't find the article right now, but I will find for you.) In her piece, Rebecca made the point that "Wake Up" is very much a liberal (1970s) feminist top-down call to action from those in the know to the hapless hoi polloi. But the thing is -- we are at a moment in history when we the people are wide awake and active and insisting that the leaders do our bidding -- as Patti Smith says, "People Have the Power, to dream, to rule, to wrestle the Earth from fools ..." Can I get an amen? So, if you want to reflect that political reality, it would be much more appropriate to title that section something like "Rise Up."

But beyond the minutiae of topic naming, you could actually empower the people more on OurChart. For instance, in your (fabulous!) Phone Sex discussion, you have, on the one hand, well-known women creating the rolling discussion, and you have, on the other hand, the OurChart audience who you've generously allowed to listen in on the conversation.

But you could create a Cats Cradle of discussion where you pass the topics back and forth between the well-known and the people. Obviously you have to set up who the next well-known person will be to receive the discussion, but you could have Alexandra Kondracke, for instance, pass the conversation to one of the OurChart members and tell her which fancy person to pass the conversation back to. Alexandra could, for instance, pass the conversation to RoverMom and say, when you've commented, pass it to Laurel Holloman. That would be more than entertaining; that would be revolutionary (as is the V to The L Word call for stories.)

The more you can find avenues for the membership to steer the conversation, the better, I think. For instance, you could have Diana Cage answer sex questions from OurChart members -- maybe as a weekly feature. Her Talk Dirty blog this week is so effing funny and brilliant, it would be great to have her field questions. You could also invite others in to do the same -- to actually interact with the OurChart membership. The Mighty Marga Gomez would be brilliant at that (and, of course I can't just volunteer her for that, and I don't know how expensive that would be) but Marga loves to hang out and talk to people, and because of her background in theatre -- especially with Culture Clash -- she loves to improvise. An "Ask Marga Gomez" blog or weekly podcast would be brilliant.

And you really really should find a way to connect with Rock the Vote. It seems to me that OurChart founder Hilary Rosen was involved with RTV when she was running the RIAA, so it's an obvious match. Here's a link to Patti Smith's MySpace page where she features a prominent link to Rock The Vote.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendi...

It seems like it would be so easy to, at the very least, add a link to Rock The Vote from the OurChart homepage. And it seems like it wouldn't be that much harder to get some cast members - probably Kate and Leisha as they would be speaking to the younger OurChart members -- to make and feature a podcast about the importance of voting and how easy it is to register through Rock The Vote.

Okay, those are the thoughts off the top of my head. Most importantly, I thank you for all you do.

Love, Light and Gentle Kleenex,
Melanie

Rebecca Walker on "Wake Up"

In her blog that you link on the upper left side of this page, Rebecca Walker had a conversation with an anonymous blogger who was excoriating her and other feminist Obama supporters for not supporting Clinton.

Anonymous said: "I disagree with your assessment of this election ... imagine the change in this country if 50% of the population woke up."

Rebecca Walker responded: "Which 50 per cent of the population are you referring to? I'm pretty sure many of the fifty about whom you are speaking feel they have already 'woken up' and decided to vote for Obama. But never mind that, the suggestion that women are monolithic and asleep and need to 'wake up' is part of the problem endemic to Second Wave. A lot of women are already awake and the narrative and symbolism of Second Wave that presumes them to be waiting to be awoken by those more enlightened does not speak to them, hence a crisis point in feminism."

Love and Light,
Melanie

Okay, Grace,

I sprung with the spring fling - met with an OC friend - my first OC cyber to flesh! Went out with CarlinDesigner last night in Dallas - fantastic person - fantastic time ;). Got our pic up in my photos!

Also, yes indeed to the short nailed femmes - changed my boot photo to my working glove photo just for you - SHORT NAILS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nothing but love

Tex

Ummmm, omg

Tex, you're like, totally HOT! Gawd-dayuuum WOMAN, not that I ever thought anything negative about you, but that pic with C to the D TOTALLY did you justice, right on! :) Peace, Jodie

P.S. Carlin, you have pretty eyes. :)

Gotta love spring....

...and the amount of beautiful girls that seem to climb out from underneath rocks once the warm weather comes! I have also caught the spring lust bug. I hung out with this super cute girl with the hottest tattoos all weekend and would love to spring fling with her. We went out drinking in the sunshine all day Friday then out for dinner, then hungout hungover watched movies and played cards in her sunroom all day Saturday, then the next day we woke up early and watched cornation street then went skateboarding in the sunshine. The problem though is that I'm also having the 'is she bi/straight' dilemma! I think my gaydar is broken it seems to not be working very well lately, or the girls I've seen around are just especially tricky. There should be some sort of blog about 'how to get your mojo back' for us girls who are trying to pull ourselves out of the winter slum. I'm having a little trouble.

Go ahead, use your job

"unofficially" to get laid. So, next time you head out, put out the word and I'm sure you'll have more than a few people show up with a moleskin notebook, a short skirt and nicely manicured nails all offering you tissues and nasal sprays:) There definitely is more than pollen in the air with the arrival of spring!

New to the scene...anyone wanna share the good places to go in the ny/nj area???

Hey

I'm lusty, you're lusty. Let's have some drinks and find a solution to this problem. ;)

Enjoying your blog as always. xo!

editor

Grace, I think this pretty

Grace, I think this pretty lady is flirting with you. Please pay attention.

author

no offense to the

very very pretty lady above...

but cage are you trying to get me in trouble here? I do enough damage on my own.

;) 

ps. no more whisky for you. 

Is your middle name 'my'?

'Peering out from the corner of my eye, I noticed her bare legs crossed beneath her very short skirt'
You sly fox you!!! Actually, if I'm honest, that's just my polite way of saying 'you big perv!' Haha. Very smooth. Your phone number obtaining ability that is, not her legs...well I wouldn't know! Were they smooth or was there some 'couple-of-days-without-shaving' stubble? Or did you not look long enough to take in that amount of detail? (Yeah right!)
And what's all this 'I do not use my job to get laid'...interesting. If I were you I'd be like 'Hey ladies, know who I am? I'm Grace Moon of the Our Chart. No, no. Please. No need to get on your knees...oh go on then if you insist!'
That's just me. But I'm not as cool as you. I don't just sit their looking at legs like a hungry wolf. I do the robot and hope that one lady might have a fetish for metal humans or nerdy Brits.
Here's to Spring Flings! Woopa!xxx

P.S. You make me feel so young...

www.myspace.com/loveshtoned

TGIS

Thank God it’s spring (TGIS) … completely agree!! w00t^^

So Ms. Jenn Kennedy, I read that both Jennifer Beals and Laurel Holloman are expected at the LA Glaad awards tonight :D and what a grand day in CA today is. Well NorCal at least, it’s gorgeous outside, hopefully it will be down south for y’all as well. <333 you forever if you can snag a pic of them together. Yes yes I’m missing TLW already and season five just ended … my my gonna be a long eight months for season six.

Anywho - Ms. Beals has been out and about but it’s really gonna been nice to see Laurel!! What an incredible season for her, must have been so fun! And Laurel looked fantastic – but I’m biased I think all women just tend to look more beautiful as time passes.

Lastly, congrats Ilene on your Davidson/Valentini award. If you get to spend sometime in SF and have a chance to tour (or drive-by) the Legion of Honor, it’s lovely. Might be a nice place for Bette, Tina, and Angelica to stop by in season six for a weekend trip :D The zoo is nearby, they can take Angie to see the monkeys!! *cough*LocationInSFWouldRock*cough* … I know the show is LA women but hey doesn’t hurt to ask right? and everyone needs a weekend getaway^^ truth - lol yes again my personal bias interferes (but I’m still right) :D

Oh! since it’s Mother’s Day weekend hopefully everyone traveling up to SF for the ceremony will get to enjoy the Bay Area^^ Make sure to get your reservations in ASAP though as I’m sure restaurants will be packed on Sunday.

That’s enough of my ramblings lol

Peace & Love,
P~

Ilene is looking very Shane

Ilene is looking very Shane today...

oh grace

lucky for you you have me to dispense advice so that you can get laid this spring (spring isn't the only thing that's sprung, if you know what i mean. i'm pre-op. whatever). you can't kvetch about some weird straight woman at a bar and about how you want to start weaseling ladies into bed, and then go on a not-hot rant about your allergies. talk about your six-pack!

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Liederbabe..

... i was trying to copy your comic timing!

did you not find my self deprciating humor funny? 

no worries...

I did!

thus making the pollen/wheezing talk not entirely a turnoff.

i hear ya...

i've got nasty allergies, too....it started out as a bad cold last week and i woke up sunday morning feeling like crap.
i also got dumped on monday/tuesday.
not a good week for me.

spring fever

I've got spring fever bad! The gaydar is full effect. However, I'm sick also Grace, so I will be inside online with the windows shut as well. I do believe a spring fling may be just what the doctor ordered for spring fever!

author

as long as ...

... that fling can handle a little extra mucus we'll be all good! :)

editor

even educated fleas do it

I've got spring fever like crazy, too. Sadly, I won't see my honey for four weeks. (!!!)

Poor Moon. I'm lucky, the worst of my allergies haven't kicked in yet. Usually May is the worst for that down here.

Off and On Spring

Grace, it was Spring here for about two days, now they are talking about snow again. Arrrrgh!

In any case, glad it is Spring for you, despite the allergies. Flirt away, my pal.

I'm gonna go buy a Moleskine notebook now in hopes of attracting an attractive woman...I don't wear short skirts.

where is spring??

Yeah up in northern minnesota we just got 3 inches of snow and its still going! I want green grass and trees with leaves! I was wearing flip flops tuesday and sitting on the grass in the sun...

author

sorry to hear it..

I'll trade the snow for the pollen any day!

and Minn! cracks me up! I can totally see you with a moleskin notebook and short tight skirt... not comfy...

Go ahead. Braaaaaaag. *sigh*

Go ahead. Braaaaaaag. *sigh* My mom always does!

rover: it's freeeezing, I wish it would snow already, just to warm up!

rover's mom: weeeeelllll, it's sunnnny and 70 in sunnnny southern California, Care (I can just hear her smile through the phone)

rover: you love rubbing it in...don't you...

rover's mom: yes I do (he he)

I will take a tecate, or a corona with 2 limes, please

rovermom :)

Life is a 3D puzzle and everyone has a piece!

NEW! OurChart Photo Assignment and My Blog

omg lmao. Now that's funny!

omg lmao. Now that's funny! Go ahead, we can blame her for her excellent blog!:)

rovermom :)

Life is a 3D puzzle and everyone has a piece!

NEW! OurChart Photo Assignment and My Blog

editor

melting, i'm melllltttting...

Rove, it's supposed to get up to 102 out my way today. And I have no AC.

Wanna trade?

I really feel for you, Julia

I really feel for you, Julia - and the rest of southern Cali. I was watching CNN this morning and was seeing how hot. Freaking 90 something as a high in downtown SD...what the fuck? That's ridiculous HOT - I can only imagine how hot it is inland. My mom lives inland. She use to live in Penesquitos, but now she's more inland.

Well, it's cool and rainy right now...ummm sure. I hope you stay as cool and comfortable as possible, Julia...

rovermom :)

Life is a 3D puzzle and everyone has a piece!

NEW! OurChart Photo Assignment and My Blog

102! - Julia, what is up with San Diego County weather?

I went to the Sports Arena two weeks ago and couldn't believe how hot it was. I go to San Diego to cool off. (I drove to the Sports Arena for the swap meet. I heard there was a guy there who sold action figures and accessories. Sick; I know.)

PS There's a new Rusty Patti comic posted.

Your friend,
Rusty
[lesbian humor; what a concept]
+ + + + + + + +
“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

And you too... Be safe in

And you too... Be safe in that heat wave, Rusty!:)

rovermom :)

Life is a 3D puzzle and everyone has a piece!

NEW! OurChart Photo Assignment and My Blog

Some women know how to use them

The nail thing is usually a good clue, especially if just the nails on one hand are long. That can be misleading though. A former lover with long nails (and nice style) knew just how to hold her fingers to prevent injury. Don't ask me how she did it, I wasn't looking, only enjoying.

There's nothing more unsexy than a goddam runny nose. My advice Grace--okay, I know you didn't ask for it, but I can't help myself--load up on antihistamine and hit the streets. It would be a shame to sit on that libido when the long-legged women in short skirts are calling you (or you could be calling them).
Lezbeth

I miss the seasons sometimes

I miss Winter on Dec 25.
I miss Spring for most of May.
I miss Fall on Thanksgiving Day.
Summer — I got up the wazoo.

That's it. The rest of the time I love California.

Your friend,
Rusty
[lesbian humor; what a concept]
+ + + + + + + +
“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

We have seasons here

and I live in California. It depends on where you are. I'm up in the Sierra Nevada foothills where we get snow (not too much), dogwoods and other trees bloom, and we get spectacular Fall colors. About the end of June, the river warms up (and gets less treacherous). Those hot summer days at the river are pure bliss. You gotta head up this way so you can have some seasons to enjoy!
Lezbeth

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are you guys

bragging?

I do envy you left costers at times... if not always...
for the weather and the landscape alone!

NYC is still the cultural capital no matter what LA-ites think!

 

I would NEVER brag about LA "culture"

I grew up in Chicago.
Lezbeth, I live in the Inland Empire. We hit 106 today.

Your friend,
Rusty
[lesbian humor; what a concept]
+ + + + + + + +
“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

That is just TOO hot.

I hear you on the LA culture thing. There are some wonderful people living there, but I just never quite got with the scene.

Grace, you'd go nuts in the town I live in. There are some things that are great about living in California, but depending on where you are here, life can be REALLY different. We have lots of guys driving around in monster trucks with gun racks here. We also have good artists, some pretty decent theater for a little town and a good music scene. But it would just not cut it for a city girl...single lezzies here are about as rare as farmers in Manhattan.
Lezbeth

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Yeah moon. I hear you.

Yeah moon. I hear you.

Housecall

Since you are stuck at home.. maybe a housecall involving many, many women is in order...

Hey Flirt

Gracie, you can flirt with us all you want. As for Ilene's new head shot...DAAAAY-YUUUUUM!!! I might have to print this pic, blow it up and put it on my wall, TigerBeat style.

I hope your cold is better. I have one too and there's an L Word party hosted by "a cast member" tomorrow night here in the "D". They won't tell us who it is but it's spring and I don't care!

xox and NyQuil too

sprung is right.

my already ridiculous libido has been on overdrive as of late, and it is seriously leaving me feeling like a 13-year old boy.
too. much. testosterone.

lesbians with long nails scare me, to be honest, all i can think about in that situation is how badly my poor vagina would be scratched up after a long session. Thats not cool, my vagina never hurt a soul. Give me short-nailed femmes any day of the week.

http://www.epiphanots.com
karmen.

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lets hear it for

short nailed femmes! xo