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The Right to Enjoy Sex

I read Germaine Greer's The Female Eunuch when I was 15. It affected my thinking so strongly that I can honestly say it made me the type of writer and thinker I am as an adult. Too scattered to be called a manifesto, The Female Eunuch was more like a battle cry. I responded fervently. I poured over Erica Jong's Fear of Flying, Xavier Hollander's The Happy Hooker and Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden. Those authors taught me that empowered women didn't have to turn on their brains to the detriment of their libidos. Orgasms were as much of a right as equal pay. Those authors taught me a form of sexually conscious feminism that has now been honed and rethought by the third wave.

There was an awareness of the body amongst many writers of the late '70s that turned me on sexually as well as cerebrally. Greer, Jong and Friday were all saying the same thing — that female sexuality existed, and women had a right to express it. Social expectations and the nuclear family paradigm had alienated us from our bodies. But coming back to the body was a way of becoming a whole woman. A woman with an identity outside of mother and wife. One of Greer's more infamous calls to action was to taste your own menstrual blood. Not only have I tasted mine, I've tasted the blood of many girlfriends over the years. That's the beauty of being a lesbian, every time you are in a woman's body, you are in your own as well.


Maria Soledad Vela.

A woman in Ecuador has now taken our right to get off to a whole new level. Maria Soledad Vela is involved in the governing party of Ecuador that is currently re-writing the country's constitution. Their focus is on ensuring basic rights to indigenous communities and the poor. But Soledad Vela wants to make sure a woman's right to sexual expression is included in the list.

Her dissenters claim she's trying to legislate a woman's right to orgasm — a lovely thought — Hillary take note. But what she is really asking for is a woman's right to enjoy sex in a society that traditionally objectifies women while suppressing their desire. Her true goals are clearer laws covering life, health and sexual education. Seems like the United States could learn a thing or two from her. How humiliating to think that, 30 years after Greer encouraged us to go after those same rights, our governing body is throwing money at abstinence-only sex ed and our reproductive rights are being chipped away. I'm moving to Ecuador.

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All this talk about menstrual blood is makin' me crave some...

Menstrual Art!

It appears the menstrual art community has been floating around the net since 2002!

http://community.livejournal.com/blood_art/

I thought the girl who used her bathroom floor as a canvas was, enchanting... I can only imagine this girl: lying in a thin puddle of her own chunky blood; erotically
engaging in an incestuous relationship with auntie flow. Smearing her rancid womanliness all over herself. Hysterically shrieking in delight. Tasting it. Smelling it. Connecting with it. Creating...Art. :)

Unfortunately, when you graze through the older pages, the image servers have already expired :( I suggest if you're thirsty for more, just Google-image 'menstrual blood'.

I also suggest reading what some of these artists have to say about their experiences:

"i recently started collecting the blood in a big jar, so i can do i big painting (or a series of little ones).
HOWEVER, it's been a month since i started. And since i started a new cycle today, i opened the jar to add more...
and it smelled SO, SO BAD. I mean, it was horrendous. The smell filled my room within a few seconds."

LOLZ, tee-hee!

I believe it is called the "Red Wing" Club

Hello, All

The Red Wing Club allows any individual into the club as long they earn their "Red Wings". No, you do not swallow the pathogens or bacteria and tissue that is mixed in the days old blood from the vagina.

To be a member one just had oral sex when the person is on their period. No you do not dive in like it is a bowl of rotten cherries and juice.

Leave the tampoon in and slowly exercise the tongue. Extend the tongue out of your mouth and do several of flickers to the little man in the boat. You have earn your "Red Wings" and come into the club for drinks with the members.

Warning: I would wash off the area before engaging with tongue and if the person does not use tampoons than it sucks to be you.

Eager Student

Life is short for drama and let's enjoy life as best as we can.

???

there's even the club..??? now its one big WOW...!!
How does it feel.....i really should try it.....:):):)

taste....what..???

Now that interesting, taste ur own menstrual blood...???? thats huge thing....:):), maybe i should try oneday...!!
Women's right....something we always (mostly our women fight for)...can u believe that in my country there's a policy issued by government about how women have to dress...yea right..!! They said that many crime on women r the result of women's behaviour....!! OOh please, that the best comedy ever......!! well, at least many women fight the policy..........so they still discuss it till now........meanwhile there's still so many more important issue to be taken care....and they choose to deal with women's dress.......sight!!

i don't want you to move to ecuador

guinea pigs are street food there. i got food poisoning there. i was mugged and then kidnapped by a bus driver there. blow is cheap but who even does it anymore? my point is, don't move to ecuador.

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Irony is a fine art

Irony is a fine art Liederman, and you are a master.

Yes.

And the Ninja turtles attacked you. Oh wait a minute!!Those were Galapagos turtles (but don’t worry I don’t expect you to know that)

Anyhow, food poisoning is from Mexico also known as Curse of Montezuma and the kidnapping business is in Colombia.. Hmmm..guinea pigs, I give you that one, you were so close and you are so cute!

ninja turtle

Ecuadornolandforanorgasmics

Dear Katie

Im pretty shure that you went to the wrong places with the wrong company in Ecuador. Im not gonna say one more word.
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I forgot the real first

I forgot the real first name of Voltaire was François : it is so often written only "Voltaire", all alone...
François-Marie Arouet is still up to date !

huh?

Um I think I missed something....
what's an egg sandwich/salad?
I'm kinda new to this, so can someone inform me?
hahaha thanks.

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It's chopped hard-boiled

It's chopped hard-boiled eggs mixed with mayonaise and junk. It's generally served on a sandwich and smells rather like someone threw up Easter all over some bread.

lol

You're the best Julia.

niiiiiiiice!

now that's the closest description of it i've ever heard. but seriously though... what's up with stomach-turning articles today on ourchart? i still haven't had lunch and you guys are making me wonder if i should at all!

hmmm... come to think of it... i REALLY don't need to eat! :D

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Our Muenster, who art heavenly...

Yes, we have committed foodie blasphemy extraordinaire. I shall do a penance of Seven Hail Dairies and three Acts of Confit Nutrition.

Nice article Diane

According with the new law in Ecuador its illegal if a husband doesn't satisfy to her wife in bed.

I can picture the women doing sues "he's a sellfish ba@stard im claiming 50k"!

Very pro femme country! maybe i should move there!

Squirrel on crack '08
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"You know I have a theory that Hieroglyphics are really an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy."

I think..

That the blogger should use another ecuatorian woman pic instead of this one.

Whose pic could be?

ideas '08

Maybe the Lorena Bobbit's pic??

She is Ecuadorian hehehe

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Squirrel on crack '08
"You know I have a theory that Hieroglyphics are really an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy."

nice article?

cuz it was like the shortest article? that's the shortest article on the oc ever? yay for pictures.. but there was only 1 i think.. it happened so fast... lol

There you go!

Now please dont tell me you are part of the group that thinks "10 thousand words blogs are better" and "10 thousand words POST" are even better! you know i can introduce you a few posters lol!

Squirrel on crack '08
"You know I have a theory that Hieroglyphics are really an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy."

please don't confuse

me with someone who reads or writes.. i am, after all, a complete knuckle dragger... pictures work for me - more pics pls.

Ok then for the next time, do you need

Ecuadorians girls bikini pics??? hmmmm

Squirrel on crack '08
"You know I have a theory that Hieroglyphics are really an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy."

:)

por favor!!

OH

So now I know what those straight women were reading in the early 70s that kept us butchy baby dykes so busy. (I remember one of the women who had me as a "first" saying, SO THAT's the Lesbian secret. heh heh)

Hmmm. Menstrual blood, I remember that. No problem, but I'm not so sure about the egg sandwich though.
Lezbeth

Forget the sandwich ...

... concentrate on making the qualifying rounds in the Olympic Tampax Toss.

Sisterhood!
Alix K.

Germaine Greer

Diana, great article!! I read Germanine Greer in the 70's when I was in my early 20's...I've tasted so much blood, I feel like a vanpire!! I think I'll start adding the egg salad!

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Wow.

That's really all I have to say about that.

I've got a suggestion!

Everyone get hysterectomies and we won't have to worry about this - the sex will be better, cleaner, and continuous - no PMS! Why, lesbians would rule the world - always sexually gratified and in wonderful moods!

Nothing but love

Tex

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re: hysterectomies

I pine for that remedy at times. (Like right now, for instance.) But somewhere deep down I am still hoping for the opportunity to produce Julia-spawn someday.

No PMS

Ohhhhhh, Tex, my friend. I got rid of my PMS the natural way. By aging. Those hot flashes were annoying for a while though.

Hey, we are we gonna schedule our FYKE?

Holy crap, Minnie!

I thought you were in your 30's!!!!!!!!

As soon as we can find a FYKE to fyke we'll start making plans - where do they fyke?

Nothing but love

Tex

Haha

Well, Tex, you flatter me (Photoshop can do wonders to hide one's age beauty lines). Count forward 20 some years.

I think FYKE is performed in Los Angeles. Guess we have to make a road trip.

Count me in

Lezbeth

'One of Greer's more

'One of Greer's more infamous calls to action was to taste your own menstrual blood'

You damn right thats pretty infamous...

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funny...

I've tasted the menstrual blood of others but not my own...
I'll make sure to do that next time.

lets start immediatley

lets start immediatley Leah's lesson to improve your pliability ;-)

Ick. I'm with you Rovermom.

Ick. I'm with you Rovermom. I have no desire to chew on my own tampon.

You just made me a nauscous.

You just made me a little nauscous.

I was taught that it was no

I was taught that it was no longer good blood, we expel it for a reason - and a reason why we spray the bathroom after changing a pad. I celebrate my period in cursation. I have no desire to taste it.

I've tasted my blood, and have no problems in sucking on a small wound to stop the bleeding and adding good bacteria to help heal it. Blood coming out of my arm or finger or hand is much cleaner then blood that was ripped off in cleansing of my womb.

I'd love to go and bring some of these ideals back home to the USA, but menstrual sipping can stay afar - as far afar as it wants.

rovermom :)

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there is here a point.First

there is here a point.
First the menstrual blood is not less or more "good" blood than the other (even somethings are still unexpained on a csientific point of view): if we losse it, there is indeed a reason but not a moral one, the fact is that the uteral structure elaborate to eventuellly wellcome the feconded ovule collapses and provoks a kind of hemoragy. What there indide the blood and the blodd himsel can absolutly not be said "bad" ! eligion and many patriarcal idéologys have strong insterest to let it believe.remember the fact that for most religions sexuality is totally bound to reproduction, and this blood is the significant proove the fecondation didn't took place. So it's a kind of waste, something you canb put in the dust bin, here you have the more noxious interpretation done.
Something "disgusting" is something you can not "gust" , taste. remember also the metaphor of eating, to taste with the mouth as a way to get knowledge, with Eve and her apple (wich might not be an aplle but that's another debate).What the Bible doesn't want and made Eve culprit, is the fact that Eve as all future women, can taste herself, and by the way knows herself and her body.
Don't miss my position, I'm not trying to convert you in tasting your uterus blood, i'm just trying to clariy somthings in the cultural discurse that try to keep women away from and despise thei own body ! My grand mother born in 1918, with the kind of mysoginst education, shcked me strongly the day she told me that women smell not very good instaead of men (unspoken subtitle : the main biological difference beetween men and women are periods, so it would means that women were inferior and dirty!!!)

On the other hand, i would like also to say to pay attention to STD, it is NOT recommanded to have unsafe lesbians sex with partner when periods : just because with blood the risk of contamination trough micro-cuts in mucous membranes, on fingers or mouth is much higher than without direct contact with blood. When the feminist called the women to taste their own period blood i'm not sure, but, the AIDS virus did'nt exist, it's not the same time now. But o course it is primordial to enjoy sex !

Endly, it's also amusing to note that the scientifical knowledge about periods is not so firm : some say periods are going to disappear with evolution and time, some say no because it is a natural unction wich maybe protect the body against infection. There waere polls done to know how many women will use the ability to throw definitavly away their periods if it was possible. I can't remeber the percentage, but as ar i'm concerned i want to keep mines !

My point is that blood that

My point is that blood that bleeds from our body, other then menstrual, is constantly flowing in the cycle of our blood system - being cleaned and filtered with each pass every few minutes.

Our menstrual blood, is blood that was used as a lining, and has not been cleaned of filtered in at least 20-30 days, and maybe even more. It's one of the reasons why your period stinks - and the reason why our body will not allow it back into our blood system.

We have a nose, right by our mouth, to get a freaking wiff of something bad, before we even eat it. Things give off a 'ewww' smell to tell us, "do not taste!" We taste things that have no oder, or visual, clues to tell us it is bad.

I don't know about anyone else, but period blood stinks and has a very definitive oder.

It has nothing to do with HIV...

This has nothing to do with sex (and sex being bad) - this is completely about blood that our body will not except anymore - because it can no longer clean and filter out the bad pathogens that have grew over that long period of being a womb lining. Steps did not take place for that lining to go into another state a few weeks prior, so the body natural disposes of the lining, which is bad blood, and restarts the new lining, at just the right time, for the egg to be release in hopes of another chance of being the perfect womb. Normally we release the egg about 4 days after our period's end.

Menstrual blood is bad, simply because it contains pathogens that have had the chance to manifest during the state of the 'non-conception' of the egg - not because of being associated with women, or sex even. And the blood is what is bad, not the woman - and cleanliness is most important during that time period. Washing hands more, and longer.

In certain cultures women who are in that period cycle are seen as unclean, simply because of history and cleanliness (or lack of good practices) have made men and people sick, so it's tied into their culture of cleanliness practices...women are the meal makers. It is important to be clean when preparing food. People don't trust when people were dying off. There are extreme pathogens that are in menstrual blood. It is bad - dirty blood.

Just like the Jewish custom of Kosher - because people were smart enough to realize this is the reason why this happens - and it was instilled as a cleanliness practice, because people were getting sick if these were not adhered to.

People were getting sick, when women were preparing food, while on their period.

rovermom :)

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Let's talk menstruation for real

You've hit a hot topic. I actually delved into the medical literature for kicks today to see if there's any merit in your theory about bacteria in menstrual blood. After all, if this blood and tissue truly were rife with pathogens, an essentially defenseless developing zygote/embryo/fetus wouldn't stand a chance. (Keep in mind that the immune system is not fully developed even at the time of a full-term birth.) Hence, I am niggled by your claim, as it does not make sense to me.

Let me back up. Since hematology is one of my specialties, it makes more sense for me to start there. The filtering of which you speak occurs in our reticuloendothelial system (spleen being the main player, big-ass filter that it is), and it is mostly filtering the blood for senile or otherwise concerning cells, meaning red blood cells and white blood cells that are misshapen, damaged or tagged with immunoglobulin (antibody). So, if there's a bacterium inside that cell, it's a gonner because the leukocytes (white blood cells) have already labelled it as bad news. Circulating blood cells encounter pathogens (bacteria and viri) most commonly when they cross a mucous membrane, such as through your gut (yuck - poopie bacteria!), brushing your teeth, etc. Our mucosal immunity, including in the nether regions, is so excellent that we healthy folk with fully-operational immune systems seldom run into trouble from bacteremia or viremia (the bugs getting into your blood) without an out-of-control, localized tissue infection trying to spread like hellfire...But if we do, those trusty white cells also circulating in your blood can be counted on to squelch things quickly! Generally, though, there are not rampant armies of pathogens invading our blood because of our excellent first-line of defense (the aforementioned mucosal immunity).

There is a theory that overt menstruation (the external shedding rather than absorption, which some species do) provides a special immunologic role to protect the uterus from pathogens that hitchiked in on the tails of sperm. We know that happens because of things like PID (pelvic inflammatory disease, where high-up items like the fallopian tubes and uterus get infected by hitchikers such as Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, etc). However, the blood doesn't flow from/through some of the most vulnerable organs (aforementioned fallopian tubes), and it only flows once a month, which would not make for a very effective defense mechanism in my view. So I'll wait to see if anyone proves/refutes this theory with evidence.

Finally, menstrual shedding is more complex than bleeding. We are shedding tissue that has had a very rich blood supply (meaning that it was circulating through the reticuloendothelial system) until 1-6 days prior to its exit from your body. When the lack of beta human chorionic gonadotropin from a developing fetus causes the corpus luteum to kick it, progesterone levels plumet, causing constriction of the spiral arteries that had developed to nourish that rich endometrium (uterine lining). The blood supply is now cut off, so the tissue dies, separates, and sheds from your body. The smell that you notice as different from any smell you note from a bleeding wound is probably due to the fact that there's dead/dying tissue in there. Once that tissue starts to die, it could be hazardous to you if it just lingered in there, which is why you must shed/absorb it (turns out, we actually do absorb two thirds!). Likewise, leaving a tampon in through the next ice age is hazardous because you're tracking in bacteria from your skin on the tampon and then letting it hang out in a stagnant (you just put a plug in there) environment to flourish if it can. The organism responsible for toxic shock syndrom is Staphylococcus, which comes from your skin, not your blood. That being said, there are girls who present to emergency departments looking pregnant but actually just full of many cycles of menstrual blood/tissue because they have an imperforate hymen.

-No, that does not imply no prior penetrative sex. The hymen is not a solid barrier that closes your vagina; it's generally just a rim, and thus it's an anomaly to have an imperforate hymen.-

Anyways, those teens present because of symptoms from having a full uterus ("My mom thinks I'm pregnant but I'm not," "Do I have a tumor?" and "My belly hurts and I'm constipated because it's so full," or something like that), but they don't have infections going on in there, because nothing from the outside has gotten in, eh? My point being that the blood itself is not bad, bacteria-laden, or cootie-carrying.

I hope you don't find me too contentious, Rover. I'm just tryin' to set the record straight (er, I mean, gay).

~paz y amor siempre

holy shit drunrchick

you should be a teacher. thanks for the info.

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also, i thought germaine greer defected??

I second the point of view

describeI second the point of view of Drunrchic !
In fact the scientifical point of view in the 19's century and up to the middle of the 20's, support the common place and popular idas about impurness and toxicity of menstrual blood and menstrued women when period. It's a cultural point of view enforced by the deficient state of the scientific knowledge at the moment.
I read a very very interesting article about the subject in historical perspectiv, unfortunately it is in French (but maybe you can use some automatic on line tools), it's here :
http://clio.revues.org/document114.html

Rovermom, If it was so toxic,Grace and so many Lesbians in OC world would have already died regarding to the amount of salad eggs they ate ! It is the most scientific proof !
Pay attention not to spread ideologic statement ! Or give us links to scientific studys that demonstrate what you say.
The fact is that when the blood is inside the uterus it is perfectly safe and clean, it can only turn to "black" (>>back to black, special dedicace to Winehouse !) outside and if it "stay" anormally in the uterus as describe by Drunrchick with the example of some undeflorated women...another generally accepted idea is the act we should not swim or make physical activities when periods occurs, even my mother told me that, but or me i never feel better swimming in the sea and making sport when periods, i never suffer too much with thme but with physical activities it is much more easier than usual !
(note: I should read the Second Sexe of simone de Beauvoir on the beach this summer because it seems very interesting on the point of periods representations)

Tribute to Kiki Smith :

Fascinating

Drunrchick, that was fascinating! I love learning about medical topics.

wow.. long post

do you have any reference pics available?

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i loved her nuts... my hero flattened in disgrace.. squirrely.

Classic period pic for you!

Re-read the sequence paragraph with this as a reference. The spiral arteries (squiggley lines below) squeeze off the blood supply at about Day 27-28.

~paz y amor siempre

Please don't...

put these kind of pics here....

I'm avoiding physiology books by looking around the OC, and you just posted this...

:)

You said it

Great arguments, Madrilene! I just have to put my medical two cents in, although you covered most of my points.

I do want to respond to your warning about STDs. Blood or no, contact with body fluids poses a risk, period! I think a lot of people tend to forget that oral sex still carries that risk. The most likely transmitables are gonna be things like herpes, not AIDS, but herpes really sucks, so go for full Saran Wrap coverage if you want to protect yourself!

Also, there's really no danger in the tasting of one's own menstrual blood, right? If you have HIV, you're not going to get it worse by licking your own bloody finger, eh? Now, if you have HSV (herpes), and you have an open sore, I wouldn't recommend spreading the labial love by touching yourself anywhere after contact with that sore - just wash your hands, darn it!

Anyhow, I just wanted to echo Madrilene's sentiments. Menstrual blood = preparation for implantation = nourishment for another life, shed because the body realizes this is not needed at this time, NOT because it is inherently "bad," bacteria-laden, or anything else.

paz y amor siempre

Drunrchicktotally agree

Drunrchick
totally agree with you with safe sex in general and especially with all the discease wich are not the AIDS

By the way i want to say again, how poor the L word is in safe sex messages ! I know the show is not a sexual educational program, but i the project was to describe the life of a lesbians friends group in Los Angeles, why it is never spoken about STD, the risk and so on...?

there is a very wrong message in the last season, especially in two moments i can remember :
-when Shane get sex with Molly for the first time,no protection,no speak about it (and maybe(but maybe not in regards of other psychological parameters) it could have been an help for the first timer Molly to practice cunni with protection);

-and the most horrific in the episod where every couple is making love at the same moment, the only one to use a condom is the Max one (but why this couple and not the other ???? it increases the mute feelings that only gay and hetersoxual people need to protect themselves but not "true" lesbians !!!), and, cherry on the top of the cake, Mark opens the condom's wrapping with teeth !!!! arg!!! and so increases the risks to damage it !

Frankly the L Word has really to improve itself in basis safe sex information !

The purpose shoudn't be to afraid but to let people be aware and scientifically informed

Have a nice day everybody !

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Well I certainly don't mean

Well I certainly don't mean we need to drink it. But I have no qualms about my lover's pussy period or not.